By: karengray | March 26, 2018

Learning Anger

Although everyone experiences anger in response to frustrating or abusive situations, most anger is generally short-lived. No one is born with a chronic anger problem. Chronic anger and aggressive response styles are learned.

There are multiple ways that people learn to respond in an aggressive and angry way. Some people learn to be angry in childhood by copying the behavior of angry people around them. Children learn how to act by watching people, so if they see their parents, older siblings, or caregivers influence others by being hostile and making threats, they are likely to adopt that behavior as their own.. For instance, children that grow up in a home where one parent constantly berates and belittles the other parent re...

By: karengray | September 19, 2017

“Some people think it’s holding that makes one strong - sometimes it’s letting go.” ~Unknown

Holding On...

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you have a difficult time letting go of a negative emotion, an emotion you wish you could make disappear? In today’s article I’ll explain why that happens and also give you a few techniques to lessen the intensity of those unpleasant feelings.

When you feel upset, you will often say “I am upset” - with an emphasis on the “I am.” To your subconscious mind (the part that is in charge of your emotions) you are giving an instruction. It feels like who you are is upset, and that you are almost defined by that feeling.

Remember that the subconscious mind follows the instructions that we give it. So, by saying...