By: karengray | October 08, 2018

A positive attitude is something that goes deeper than putting on a smile and surface cheer. An attitude is a pattern of feelings that, like all feelings, stems from your subconscious mind. We know that feelings, emotions, and thoughts are all tools that our subconscious mind uses to influence our actions and behaviors, so it is easy to see now that attitude, or your “state of mind” shapes your actions. Your actions then create similar feelings in the people you come in contact with. Negative attitudes promote fear and a narrowing of focus and the mind, while positive attitudes create feelings of happiness and comfort.


To put it simply, your attitude creates the way you feel about people and situations. Your actions are a result of your atti...

By: karengray | June 03, 2018

What Is Self-Sabotage?

Behavior is self-sabotaging when it creates problems that interfere with your long-standing goals. Self-sabotage can be something that you do, like procrastinate overeat, or self-medicate with drugs or alcohol. It can also manifest in the ways that you act, such as low self esteem and low self-confidence. These behaviors and actions may seem helpful in the moment, but they ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly.


People aren't always aware of their own self-sabotage, since we rarely see ourselves clearly. Often, if you have self-sabotaging behaviors, you may find yourself wondering why things can’t seem to go your way. You may have asked yourself “Why can’t I get a good job?” or “Why isn’t ...