By: karengray | October 21, 2018

We all have it. Baggage is that emotional stuff that you have stuffed down and haven’t dealt with it. It’s like stuffing memories and feelings in a closet so that you don’t have to look at them.


It is a natural process that we all participate in, and it has many different names. It can be called avoidance, compartmentalizing, repressing, numbing, and others. But it all means the same thing. Something happened and you haven’t processed it yet, so you put it away to come back to later, when you are better able to deal with it.


But what happens when that closet overflows into your life? What happens when all those emotions come rushing back into the room?


Holding On...

All those things that you have been hiding away don’t just sit there quietly. T...

By: karengray | June 03, 2018

What Is Self-Sabotage?

Behavior is self-sabotaging when it creates problems that interfere with your long-standing goals. Self-sabotage can be something that you do, like procrastinate overeat, or self-medicate with drugs or alcohol. It can also manifest in the ways that you act, such as low self esteem and low self-confidence. These behaviors and actions may seem helpful in the moment, but they ultimately undermine us, especially when we engage in them repeatedly.


People aren't always aware of their own self-sabotage, since we rarely see ourselves clearly. Often, if you have self-sabotaging behaviors, you may find yourself wondering why things can’t seem to go your way. You may have asked yourself “Why can’t I get a good job?” or “Why isn’t ...

By: karengray | September 19, 2017



“Some people think it’s holding that makes one strong - sometimes it’s letting go.” ~Unknown





Holding On...

Have you ever noticed that sometimes you have a difficult time letting go of a negative emotion, an emotion you wish you could make disappear? In today’s article I’ll explain why that happens and also give you a few techniques to lessen the intensity of those unpleasant feelings.


When you feel upset, you will often say “I am upset” - with an emphasis on the “I am.” To your subconscious mind (the part that is in charge of your emotions) you are giving an instruction. It feels like who you are is upset, and that you are almost defined by that feeling.


Remember that the subconscious mind follows the instructions that we give it. So, by saying...