By: karengray | June 18, 2018

It happens to high powered executives, to teachers, to stay-at-home parents. It happens to high school and college kids, even to younger kids in elementary and middle school. It happens to almost all of us. Summer is here. We finally get some time off. We’re going to relax and restore ourselves. But somehow, it doesn’t seem to happen.

What is wrong here? Why can’t we relax?

I saw a client recently with a very common issue. They came to me because they couldn’t put their finger on what was wrong, but they knew they wanted to change the way they felt. Here’s what they told me.

I don’t know how to relax and stop worrying. I have a good life. I have a great job, a loving relationship, brilliant and beautiful kids, and I am usually very happy. Ev...

By: karengray | May 28, 2018

We have all been there...

You are full of inspiration and 100% motivated to start your healthy new lifestyle. You start to work out four times a week, you eat healthy and you treat yourself every once in a while. This is the perfect plan, and everything is going great. Somewhere along the road you lose your motivation and you have no idea how to get back on track.

Some days you wake up and right when you are going to begin your work, excited and ready to take on whatever the day brings. And then one day, that feeling where you once were so passionate and energized to take action just isn’t there anymore. You try to hype yourself up but it’s not working, and everything you do seems to be counterintuitive. You don’t want to work today and you d...

By: karengray | April 16, 2018

Managing Your Time...

Do you sometimes feel like you spend all your time managing crises? That your life is basically spent putting out one proverbial fire after another?

At the end of the day do you feel completely sapped and drained of energy, and yet you can’t point to anything you accomplished that had any real significance?


Then you are probably confusing the urgent with the important.

The Eisenhower Matrix

President Dwight D. Eisenhower developed the "Eisenhower Matrix." It's a tool for figuring out what's important versus urgent in order to increase your productivity by allowing you to focus your time on tasks that are important but not urgent.

The Eisenhower Matrix allows you to sort your task list according to what's most i...

By: karengray | February 27, 2018

If you have ever had the thought that you were wasting time or putting things off, then you have been procrastinating. Most people feel some tension when they think about procrastination. We view it as a bad thing, as something to be avoided. But what if we have been looking at it all wrong?

Let’s talk about some of the ways that we can think about procrastination differently.


The Distraction:

Do you ever pretend to work while playing computer games or watching shows? If you have, then you have noticed that the work takes much longer t complete because you keep getting sucked into the game or show or YouTube or Facebook.


One possible reason that we distract ourselves when we are “supposed” to be working on something else is that we ...