Imagine how your life would change if you use just a few simple words to change that negative inner dialogue.
Your inner dialogue - those things you tell yourself about yourself every day - have a huge impact on your feelings, reactions, and even your health. Those “self” statements have more of an impact on you than anything anyone else could say or do.
You Are What You Say You Are
“I am so clumsy.”
“I always screw things up.”
“I’ll never be good enough.”
“I can’t lose the weight.”
“I have anxiety.”
“This is just how I am.”
Here’s the thing, when you hear yourself say statements like this, your subconscious mind hears them as a "truth", and responds accordingly by making sure that your actions support those false truths.
Now, you may have tried to tell yourself the opposite thing. You may have tried telling yourself that you are good enough, that you don’t have anxiety, or that you have an easy time losing weight. But you probably didn’t believe it. Here's why...
Bypassing the Filter
Your subconscious mind is where all you habits, behaviors, and inner dialogue comes from. We all have a built in filter that limits the ideas that go into our subconscious mind. Have you ever noticed that we tend to be suspicious of new ideas that don’t match up with what we already believe? That happens because the subconscious mind likes everything to stay about the same. That’s one of the ways it keeps up alive. Your blood pressure and heart rate stay about the same, your eating habits and emotional state stays about the same - the subconscious maintains the balance in everything about us. That balance, or homeostasis, keeps us running efficiently. Opposing ideas threaten that balance, so they are rejected by the subconscious.
There is a simple way that you can use to bypass that filter and begin to change your inner dialogue.
Magic Words
There are two words that you can put at the beginning of any statement that let the statement stay recognizable enough to make it through the filter into the subconscious mind, and creates some distance between you and that negative thinking.
“Used to…”
Putting the words “used to” into that negative self talk moves the ideas from something that is happening right now to something that happened in the past, putting some distance between you and those negative thoughts. Those two little magic words also, maybe more importantly, allow for the possibility that things are different now.
Don’t take my work for it though - try it for yourself!
“I used to be so clumsy.”
“I used to screw things up.”
“I used to believe I’d never be good enough.”
“I used to not be able to lose the weight.”
“I used to have anxiety.”
“This is just how I used to be.”
Notice how the impact of each statement changes? Now try it with your own self talk and notice how quickly things begin to change.
The more you use this technique, the faster your thinking and your behaviors, will change. Your subconscious will begin to automatically create positive new changes, now that it knows it has the option! 