The things we tell ourselves have a huge impact on our feelings, reactions, and even our health. The truth is - we will end up in whatever direction we're focused on.
According to your subconscious, you are the smartest person you know. Your mind hears your thoughts and words as directions, and it forms our experiences to match the tone we set.
You Are What You Say You Are
"This is going to be hard"
"I'm afraid of _____"
“This is so stressful.”
“I'm going to screw this up.”
“I’m not good enough.”
“It's hard to lose weight.”
“I have anxiety.”
“This is just how I am.”
“I can’t do it.”
As you read these phrases, pay attention to how they feel. You'll notice that there is an absoluteness to them. These statements don’t leave any room for things to be anything else.
When we hear ourselves say things like this, our subconscious minds hear them as a direct suggestion, and it does everything it can to make sure that they stay true.
And here’s the interesting thing - you may have tried to tell yourself that the opposite is true. And you probably didn’t believe it. That’s because your subconscious mind has a built-in filter (think of your “BS” filter) that is designed to filter out anything that doesn't line up with the beliefs that we already hold.
This filter keeps us from creating unresolvable conflicts of thought. It's also why we think that change is hard. You try to say positive things and think positively, but the mind keeps pulling you back to old negative patterns.
Change happens naturally and automatically once you know the right way to make it possible.
There are two words that you can use to bypass that filter and begin to think more positively. And when we're focusing more on possibilities than negative patterns, that's where our minds will bring us.
“Used to…”
Putting the words “used to” into negative self-talk moves the ideas from something that is happening right now to something that happened in the past. These magic words also, and maybe more importantly, allow for the possibility that things can be different now, moving you out of that rut.
Let’s try it out.
"This used toseem hard"
"I used tobe afraid of _____"
“This used to feel so stressful.”
“I used to think I was going to screw this up.”
“I used tothink I wasn't good enough.”
“I used to believe it would have been hard to lose weight.”
“I used to believe I was stuck having anxiety.”
“This is just how I used to be.”
“I used to think I couldn't do it.”
Notice how each statement opens up new possibilities now? Notice how your mind accepts them without the BS alarm? Now try it with your own self-talk!
As we use these magic words, we stop reinforcing the negative patterns, and the faster our subconscious minds will begin to create positive changes to match the new possibilities we've made room for.
How Hypnosis Helps
This is one of the ways hypnosis works so perfectly in creating changes. In a session, we don’t argue with the old story. The things that happened already happened. But that doesn't mean they need to keep happening. We don't need to try to force new beliefs. Instead, we give the mind new directions it can follow easily and naturally. Hypnosis helps incorporate those “used to” statements into the deeper operating system of the mind, so the changes not only feel possible, they become automatic.
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